Counselling

There are times in your life when you need to get help from someone else apart from friends or family, who are often too close to really be able to help out.

You may also be used to struggling on alone and not find it easy to ask for support.

Issues that you may want help with can include:

  • Self Esteem and Confidence
  • Anxiety
  • Fear
  • Depression and Despair
  • Sadness, Regret and Grief
  • Unwanted Thoughts
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Anger
  • Lack of Energy
  • Sleep Problems
  • Phobias
  • Panic
  • Distress or Traumatic Events
  • Emotional and Sexual Abuse
  • Acute and Chronic Physical Conditions
  • Issues around Food
  • Obsessions and Compulsions
  • Habits
  • Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Relationship and Friendship Issues
  • Family and Communication
  • Childcare and Carer Responsibility
  • Feeling Lonely or Alone
  • Sexuality
  • Lack of Social Life or Interests
  • Feeling Stuck, Direction in life, Motivation
  • Religion and Spirituality
  • Career Issues
  • Talking Through Money, Housing and Legal Worries
  • Bereavement or Loss
  • Divorce or Separation
  • Bullying or Being Bullied
  • Stress at Home or Work

Although this varies from person to person here are 10 stages of the counselling process as I see it:

  1. Developing rapport and taking time to identify why you have come for counselling and what you are unhappy with. Feeling we are in this together.
  2. Looking at what you want to change. What would your life look like and how would you feel if things were different?
  3. Identifying what for you gets in the way of things changing. Such issues include your beliefs, ways of thinking, habits, old patterns, insecurities, fears, painful events and memories and how safe you feel. We will also look a how used you are to feeling the way you do, and how real change can be understandably daunting.
  4. Being kind to yourself about how well you have coped until now. Replacing self blame and guilt with understanding and meaning. Things are the way they are now. OK so what next?
  5. Clearing the blocks to change in your mind and emotions and looking at practical ways of changing how you are within yourself, in life and in relationships.
  6. Noticing any changes. Remembering as best you can to support yourself when things go well and to start to focus more on positive thoughts.
  7. Continuing to work together on what is still difficult and what helps. Continuing to get support and reassurance.
  8. Start to see how you create your life and future and what you can learn from things that ‘ go wrong’ or are unexpected.
  9. As you notice you have power over your life more you will not feel so stuck and will feel happier more often and if you are upset it won’t last for so long or be as intense.
  10. Develop your confidence to create changes you want and to deal with difficulties more easily. As you do this you will see things more clearly, feel more stronger to cope and find it easier when things go wrong. Your emotions will serve and help you, rather than control you.

You will start to live the sort of life you deserve and reawaken your interest in life, your passion and your joy.